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TherapistJen, LCSW, CPC
Category: Relationship
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Experience:  Licensed Clinical Social Worker and Certified Professional Coach
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I have recently discovered that my boyfriend has used my card

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I have recently discovered that my boyfriend has used my card on a few occasions without my permission . On top of that he owes a fair amount of money and I still pay for most of our stuff any way. I've found some messages between him and another women proposing a f**k buddy situation during our relationship. Realised he tells a lot of lies today . He is kind a funny and sweet when we are together but I don't know if he's just using me now . Do I confront him and risk loosing him and everything he owes me or should I try and make it work without saying anything ?
Submitted: 2 years ago.
Category: Relationship
Expert:  TherapistJen replied 2 years ago.
I am sad to hear this for you. If you decide to stay with him it doesn't sound like you are getting that money back. You pay for most things and then he takes your card? And he is texting another woman to get involved with? I don't hear a man that has a lot of desire to be in a mutual and caring relationship but rather a man that does for himself and takes care only of himself. I am saddened to hear that you might not feel so great about yourself that you are willing to try and make it work with a man that displays such behavior. I would hope you want more for yourself and hope you can see that you deserve that. Sure you can talk to him in a calm maneer about it all, but my guess is he will have justifications for it all and say what you want to hear. Figure out what you want and what you are willing to tolerate and go from there.