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TherapistJen, LCSW, CPC
Category: Relationship
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Experience:  Licensed Clinical Social Worker and Certified Professional Coach
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I am in a same sex relationship and we are at our lowest

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I am in a same sex relationship and we are at our lowest ever point my suggestion of a trial separation has gone down very badly and I regret saying anything. Now my partner is leaving today and I feel lost I thought foolishly we could have done this imicable protecting our from anymore hurt. But now she's holding all the cards and I feel like it's not going to be a mutual decision.
Submitted: 1 year ago.
Category: Relationship
Expert:  TherapistJen replied 1 year ago.

I am sorry to hear of the pain you are going through right now. If things aren't in a good place then maybe you taking this time truly apart could be beneficial for both of you to have the time to sort things out for yourself.

Expert:  TherapistJen replied 1 year ago.

It is not easy at all to have her leave, but it sounds like things have gotten to this point for a reason. You both hold the cards and try and communicate your feelings in a way that you can feel herd and understood.

Customer: replied 1 year ago.
We are just not getting anywhere my partner cannot let go of the past and says I've caused all of this. She is being so unreasonable she won't except the offer of joint counselling she says she needs to heal herself but so far I don't see Anthony being done. She's now moved into the spare room with no discussion orders the new bed and off she goes. I'm at a loss what to do next and what she actually wants from me she's says I should admit my mistakes and I have but it's 50/50. I asked if she wants to see me on my knees and doesn't she have any idea what's she doing to me and she said it's my doing. I asked for a break I have to suffer the coincidence
Expert:  TherapistJen replied 1 year ago.

It sounds to me like the dynamic right now is not working so a break might be the way to go...give yourself and her that time and things will play out as they are supposed to. It's not about whom has apologized more or when..right now the communication has broken down so time for a break.