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As we talked about the other day, it may take some time to know. I don't think he knows right now and you may need to give it more time and just let things play out until you know. Go about your life and do your own thing and in time it will all be revealed but also as we discussed you might decide this isn't for you.
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I understand that you want to ask him outright but from what I understand about him, he will not give you that answer.
I would go away and see how things feel and then ask him what he truly wants without asking you why you stay!
I thought you sent the email...I would send it.
Let me know your thoughts.
I would wait then and just go spend time together and see how it all feels.
I know how hard this is for you. As we discussed last week the more you question him, the more you push him the further away he will go. as best you can pull back, don't pepper him with questions and just let things be if you can't do that then you will need to decide whether this kind of relationship works for you but pushing him to give you answers before he's ready will not help you and what you want.
Sorry for the delay. I was with private clients. I think you should give him the space...I know that not knowing is hard but the more you push or show up places he may feel bothered and truly pull away. Let it all play out while you are away and go from there.
I know you desire to know all the answers right now....let things play out naturally as there is no way to plan how to be affectionate...if it feels right then be affectionate, if it feels that you desire him to reach out then do that, but the only way to really tell is when you are in it and spending time but in the meantime, I would pull back and just let things be.
Please take a moment to offer a rating and I am here again in the future if you need. Let things be and focus on your for a bit. Be well.
I support you...be strong and let's see how things go over the next few days.
Let him take the lead...my gut says this is ending and I know how scared you are. Let him talk about what he wants and go from there.
I am not sure why he acts the way he does. he stated that he was lazy and he just may be lazy to end it as well and waiting for you to speak the words. you will see when you meet him there is no way to go through everything every possibility just let things be and get through the meeting with him and take it as it comes.
I have suggested all I can about waiting until you are together to go through it. These questions in your email to him will not be helpful. Let it play out.
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