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Hi my name is ***** ***** I hope I can help - please give me a moment to read what you've written.
Hi Lee, thank you for the information. Unfortunately, it does not sound like she is interested in a relationship with you at this time - it also does not sound like she respected you or your relationship with her. Given her behaviors in your relationship - it does not sound like she wanted a committed relationship with you - even though it sounds like you went above and beyond in the relationship. Is this someone you truly want to be with, if they're not willing to engage in a healthy, reciprocal relationship with you?
It does sound like she has a lot going on interpersonally. If she's not willing to begin to process these various aspects of her life, then she likely won't be able to engage in a healthy relationship with anyone. It sounds like she's currently coping with her interpersonal deficits by consuming alcohol - which doesn't help the situation in anyway. It sounds like she almost takes you and what you do for her for granted. From what you've described above - it sounds best to have a relationship with her that exists only regarding your son. So what I would do if I were you is to maintain strict boundaries - only picking up your son and dropping him off from designated areas - that are not both your homes. This way you won't feel obligated to engage in any other behaviors outside of picking up your son. While having a child in the mix does make things slightly more challenging and I totally hear you when you say you want to make things work; however, it does not sound like she wants to - and in order for a relationship to work both parties have to work at their relationship.
You're welcome! I would agree, in that, I think it's time to begin to move forward with your life. Have you looked into speaking with an attorney re: your home, the contents within, and your son? You may have an excellent case. It does suck that you had to move back in with your parents, I would think anyone would feel this way - however, it doesn't mean it's the end of the road for you! It also makes it challenging that you work together - however, again, I would work at maintaining appropriate boundaries with her and only speaking to her when necessary for work or your son. I don't think this is a situation you've overreacted in or overthought - you want whats best for you and your son - it makes sense; however, it does not sound like she is reciprocal. She may move forward first and that's okay - it may take some time for you to heal - that's okay too - it doesn't make you any less of a man or a person. The right woman is out there who will love your kindness and kind gestures.
It is sad given what yall had - however, each day will get a little easier. And we all want happiness for those we loved or love - even though it hurts to not have that love reciprocated. Was there anything else I can help you with?
Not a problem! Best of luck to you!