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Thanks for being so open about it all. It sounds like her feelings did change somewhere along the road and yes it may be normal for couples to settle into routines and sparks dim, it is a different story if she feels that she doesn't have that kind of love for you anymore. Her "mistake" isn't really the issue...it is her changing feelings and so yes she does need to be on her own to figure out what she feels, what she wants and what she needs. I understand the urge to smother with texts to remind her of all the good, but she knows that and the less space you give her the more her desire will be to cut it all off completely. So as best you can pull way back and don't reach out...that is not to play a game, but rather to honor her wishes and needs. How long do you wait? Can't really put a time frame on that but let her be your guide. She knows how to reach you and will if she desires. The space and time will give her the opportunity to explore her feelings and get things right for herself. In the absence she might miss you and what you had and desire to work on it all. If her feelings are totally gone then yes she may realize that it is not workable for her. I know you feel if you just did something, you can get her back on track, but that something is giving her the space. Focus on you now as well and breathe through the tough moments. Let's hope with some time that clarity will come and she will desire to be back with you and create a deeper and more open connection.
Ordinarily I would say leave all contact aside but with the New Year, I also don't want her to feel as if you are not thinking of her...So I would simply text her and say, I know you want your space, but it wouldn't feel right not to wish you a wonderful New Year. I am okay with that but then you must leave it all be.