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Hello, I'm Rafael, an integrative psychotherapist. I'm here to support you. I'm carefully reviewing your post and I'm sorry to know about your distressful and most probably, overwhelming situation.
What you have described would be very sad, frustrating and painful for most people in your shoes, since after a five-year-long relationship, you do not expect these serious issues to continue, but there is no doubt your ex-partners alcoholism, financial and personal problems related to it.
As painful as it is, denying reality could not help but continue to tolerate and enable this person's addiction, lack of respect, no accountability and other serious issues, would just worsen hsi personal mental and physical health and life situation, as well as undermine the lives of those around him, like ti has been your case for all this long.
Could you please tell me what is your question about it?