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I am sorry to hear of this stress...if you read your words, it appears that you know what you truly desire and that is to not be together but your own fears, worries and anxieties keep you there. But its possible that will continue this cycle of depression and anxiety. What could be helpful is to see a counselor together with the goal being unwinding it all with kindness and also giving you both the skills to exist without the other one in the way you have tried for so long. I know how hard it is, but from what I read from you, it seems like you want that but are just terrified of how it all will be for you.
I hear that he is kind but I also know that may not be enough to stay together as you are both hurting more. I would be open with him again and discuss that things don't feel right moving forward and you desire to end things. It won't be easy and you will feel lots of things but I hear your sadness being together. You will heal and you will feel strong again and you just may enjoy your life....
Yes of course and it gives you time just to be with you....learn about yourself again, feel some joy and feel free....many possibilities before you...staying in something because of fear isn't fully living...and you deserve to live fully.
There will be pain for both of you...that is inescapable. But you can let him know how you deeply care for him and have for a long time and always will but that you don't believe a relationship in this way is what you desire for your yourself moving forward.
learn about you again....there is someone wonderful in there!
sounds good. Thank you for the wonderful rating.