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Hello, I'm Rafael, an integrative psychotherapist. I'm here to support you. I'm carefully reviewing your post and I am very sorry to know about your distressful situation. Could you please tell me if you still want to discuss your situation?
Could you please tell me if your wife suffered from depression, anxiety or other mental health problems before this terrible situation started, and what caused or triggered it if you know?
I see, then it is indeed very serious, and not something based on retaliation from an isolated argument, but the consequences of serious anxiety disorder, most probably depression too, but with psychotic symptoms, since delusions these severe with dysfunctional behavior affecting your lives the way they have, most times do not just suddenly happen, but gradually develop deteriorating people's lives, and without necessary psychotherapeutic support, they become more severe and destructive, what explains your current situation.
I am sorry to see this situation has got this painful. You need at least two professionals to support you. Please look for an excellent professional psychotherapist with expertise in relationships issues, mood, and anxiety disorders to support you on your own rehabilitation and coping, since it is your own health and well-being what you can and should ensure, control and empower, since it is from there that you will enable yourself to effectively cope with this tough reality.
Second, you need an excellent attorney to assist you in understanding the law that regulates this type of situation, for you to do what is necessary to protect yourself, from reputation to career, and to help her as possible. The attorney will fully assist you in working with the family court and police to prevent and cope with any issues caused by your wife's mental condition. Does it make sense?
Mental health solicitors are specialized in this type of problem. It could be helpful to discuss with your GP about it too since he/she could refer you to for psychotherapy. You should contact your local NHS office for a referral for psychotherapy too.
Remember that you need your support system there for you, this is anybody from your family and close friends, who are healthy, mature, caring and supportive.