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Hello, I'm Rafael, an integrative psychotherapist. I'm here to support you. I'm carefully reviewing your post, and I am sorry to see about your concern related to your friend and employee. Could you please specify what is your question about it?
When a person shows interests for a short period of time and then changes her behavior, consistently showing the ack of it, while you have not changed your behavior at all, most times it shows that she indeed has changed her feelings or the behaviors she used in the beginning fo your work-related relationship/friendship/dating.
Now if we add to that that this person has BPD, then that could much easily explain the volatility of her feelings. Most people in your shoes could normally feel frustrated, and that's why you need to come to terms with the fact that unless a person spontaneously wants to work on knowing you better, and build a healthy and closer relationship, attaching to any higher expectations or pushing her would not help, but most times causes further pain and distress.
I suggest you not push this person and to only maintain social/personal interaction/texting as much as you want to afford, adjusting your expectations to the interests she is currently presenting.
Does it make sense?
I am sorry to see you have been undergoing such a tough time because of this person's changing behavior. Please look for psychotherapeutic support to work on the emotional challenges you have been faced, apparently triggered by this person's behavior.
If you meant you believe you could develop PTSD from the interaction with this person, I can assure you that is impossible, since what you are describing here is psychological and emotional problems related to self-esteem, coping problem, emotional regulation, and other issues, but not to any form of traumatic even threatening your life integrity.
I wonder if you read my response, if it makes sense, and if it answered your question.
You are welcome. Different forms of trauma could develop depending on the person's sensitivity, nervous system, personality, coping skills, maturity level, and many other factors, but what we consider PTSD is only associated to experiences where the person's life integrity or the life integrity of someone else is in danger, like for example domestic violence. sexual assault, a car accident, a terrorist attack, war, witnessing a murder, and similar scenarios.