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Hi, I hope I can offer some assistance.
You are describing the typical pattern of an abusive relationship, and if he has has hit you, this is assault. You can press charges.
You do not mention whether you are living at home with parents? Or whether they are supportive of you? I wonder why you feel you would get in trouble for your boyfriend hitting you?
I would strongly suggest you contact Women's Aid for support https://www.womensaid.org.uk/. They define domestic abuse as:
What is domestic abuse?
We define domestic abuse as an incident or pattern of incidents of controlling, coercive, threatening, degrading and violent behaviour, including sexual violence, in the majority of cases by a partner or ex-partner, but also by a family member or carer. It is very common. In the vast majority of cases it is experienced by women and is perpetrated by men.
Domestic abuse can include, but is not limited to, the following:
Partners such as the one you are describing, show a pattern of eroding the confidence and self esteem of their victims over time, the abuse will tend to escalate, and your support network will get less. They will almost always blame their victims for the abuse, taking no responsibility, and further eroding their victims confidence in themselves. These types of relationships are difficult to leave, because the abusive behaviours will often escalate as the abuser feels they are losing control of their victim. These relationships are not based on love, they are based on control. The only healthy way forward from a relationship like this is to get out of it, and first to ensure that you are safe and supported to do so. You need to talk about this to people that you trust, and know that you do not need to explain yourself or justify your decision to him.
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