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I am sorry to hear about all of this. Imagine one of your friends wrote what you wrote above....what would you feel for them and what would you believe they should do?
Nothing is obvious through this medium so please feel free to expand. And my comments were just part of an initial dialog.
My additional thoughts are that this relationship will not work out and he has no intention of being any different toward you or the relationship. He seems a bit self-involved and not able to care for you in the way you need, desire and deserve. If you have been in a relationship for 3 years and has now blocked you, then I think his intentions are clear. I would focus on you and moving forward and focus on your recovery after surgery. I wish you the best with your surgery as well.