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Hello, I'm Rafael, an integrative psychotherapist. I'm here to support you. I'm carefully reviewing your question now and I am sorry to know about your frustrating situation.
You have been doing the right thing by working on yourself and the issues that led to the end of your relationship since that's the best and the most anybody in your shoes could and should do about it.
She has allowed you to stay connected and sharing, which is good, but again, you have been living together until recently, and now her behavior could mean either or both possibilities you listed, that she may be testing you and/or showing you that she is not willing to perpetuate this close sharing as it has been until recently.
Always respect her boundaries, even when you do not like them. Pushing something out of fear that she would go far away from you would not help but worsen your situation, so please focus on what you can and should control, instead of trying to control something that only depends on her.
Thus being friendly and supportive while fully respecting her boundaries, and if that requires not contacting or sharing more with her than what she allows, then that's it, there is nothing else you can or should try until she changes her approach.
I wonder if you read my response and if it answered your question.
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