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It is possible, but I don’t think it is a good idea to wait around for him. For one I think his excuse for breaking up with you is just a cop out. If he says he doesn’t have time for you, what he is actually saying is, he has more important things in life than you. I would advise you to move on. Does that make sense?
He might I personally think the friend thing is dangerous. That is a good way for him to retain you without the commitment. I’m not saying you guys have no chance of getting back together. I am saying you have a better chance of that happening if you aren’t friends. That doesn’t mean you can’t be friendly, just not friends, hanging out and such. Tell him you care about him but out of respect for his wishes you are moving on.
Tell him f he changes his mind, to he knows how to get hold of you. Does that make sense?
Well, in retrospect, it might be more dangerous for him than you. What it might do to you is give you a false sense of hope and security"for him, as long as you are around, there is th temptation to question his priorities. i think he needs to prioritize his responsibilities. When i met my 8fe, I as a full time student in college, had full time job, and was in the army reserves and ROTC, working toward my commission. We married within a year and are still married today. 35years later.
“When I met my wife I was...”
Well, she is an amazing wife! You know, he is an adult. Let him make up his own mind.
In all honesty, I think he wants his freedom. He is young and still searching...
How old are you?
To be honest, I am not that concerned about him. You are the one who has secured my services. My opinion he is wanting the freedom to explore other possibilities. I hate to see you be put on hold will he shops aroun. That is not meant to be derogatory toward him. He has done the right thing. He has let you go. My personal opinion is you need to move on.
Wow, I am so sorry. Maybe you could suggest a trial period in which you give him a few weeks or so of no contact and then HE CONTACT YOU and let you know where you stand.
The reason I say he contact you is to give him the opportunity to prove his interest and to take control. no , I don’t think you did anything to cause this. He is just young and not ready to commit.
It sounds like you have your head on straight. I was worried you would put your life on hold for go,
That is very wise and honestly what I was attempting to portray. I’m just not use to dealing with such wise 18 year olds. Could you do me a favor and rate my answer so I can receive credit for it.