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Experience:  MHT-MHRS-MS-MA Integral Psychotherapist & Life Coach
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Myself, my daughter & my husband have been living with my

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myself, my daughter & my husband have been living with my parents since 2015. we only intended to stay for maximum 3 years but unfortunately we are still here!! I am doing my best to safe money in order for us to get a flat but my husband is sooo laid back & too comfortable & every time I choose to bring up the subject of moving out & to discuss plans for our future he gets offensive. so from that time I choose not to say anything to him as I appear to be nagging!
JA: The Psychologist will know what to do. Is there anything else important you think the Psychologist should know?
Customer: my husband disrespects my mother & sister especially. I know she can be very selfish & she has an attitude problem but this is no reason for my husband to call her a bitch! from this, my husband has pushed me away to the fact that this is effecting our intimacy. whenever he comes near me, i cringe. An how can I be intimate with him when all 3 of us are in 1 room. this is getting beyond a joke.

Hello, I'm Rafael, an integrative psychotherapist. I'm here to support you. I'm reviewing your post now and I am sorry to know about your distressful,very concerning and frustrating situation.

Customer: replied 6 days ago.
Thank you Rafael. Your help is very much appreciated. I look forward to hearing from you.

No problem. The scenario you have described here is shocking since it shows your husband has not been honest, accountable, caring nor even respectful t you and your family, and that he not only feels comfortable but entitled to manipulate you and leave things the ay they are in a very selfish if not narcissistic way, and I think the more you tolerate his dysfunctional ways, the more you enable them and undermine your health and your family's situation.

Customer: replied 6 days ago.
Exactly Rafael. I don't know what to do.

My suggestion is for you to get individual psychotherapy, to carefully assess your core needs and expectations, and see how well or not your husband has been able and willing to meet them or not, and being realistic make decisions consistent with what you need, deserve, want and are willing to afford in the present and for the long run.

Customer: replied 6 days ago.
Ok thank you. can you please recommend anyone or should I just Google it.
Customer: replied 6 days ago.
Ok I will call on Monday as my husband is back from work then off tomorrow. Hope this is OK? Many thanks.

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