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Hi, I hope I can offer some help with your question.
As children, we learn how to attach to others, however if the attachments that we have made are not secure, due to for example disruption of care or neglect, then these can stay with us into adulthood. Attachment is essential for survival, especially as children.
If there is a history of unstable attachment with caregivers, it would be helpful for you to talk this over with your gp to see if you could be entitled to some support to identify and work through any past history of these issues, and inappropriate feelings of attachment to others that you currently experience. Our drive for connection help us to feel safe and secure, however as you have identified, you feel you become overly attached too quickly, and this can actually become detrimental, as others may feel overwhelmed by this. Working through any past issues, or even from childhood, may help you to form healthier and more balanced feelings of attachment to others, by building your confidence in yourself first.