What if religion is ruining your life? But u can't leave it

As long as an individual fully follows traditional religious values and belief systems that perpetuate dogmas that conflict with reality, and go against your needs and expectations in several areas of your life, there would be no way to please such religion and those following it, and take good care of yourself, building a healthy, meaningful and fulfilling life.

If you find that the following religion offers you enough benefits in your physical, mental, emotional, social, professional and spiritual health when limiting you in one or a couple of nonimportant aspects of your life, or that you truly can and want to afford such li9mitations because fo the many healthy, empowering and constructive things you get from the following religion, then no problem.

But if as you posted here, your reality is the opposite, and religion has mostly undermined your life at multiple core levels,  then you've to decide if you want to continue living your life shaped by those beliefs and values or change to ensure your health, happiness, and well-being while affording the obvious challenges of leaving your religion. Professional psychotherapy with a therapist with expertise in religion, sociocultural diversity, and relationships is necessary to work on this process.

Traditional religions like Islam have a core of universal principles and values that are healthy and empowering, share with similar religions like Christianism, like not stealing, killing, using drugs, betraying, being irresponsible, etc. But these religions also have multiple dogmas, which could be even more diverse based on the different sects or variations within the same religion. These "dogmas" are not about universal human values and principles, but mandates that control, and limit people's behaviors and life to comply with the rules set by groups of people to control social groups. They are not part of the core of universal values and principles that lead to a healthy and constructive life.

Then an adult should always work on growing, developing, and maturing their beliefs and values as such since an adult is not a naive and underdeveloped child who blindly believes and does everything adults around them tell them to do. Adults should be fully responsible for their own values, beliefs, actions, and the life they build. Otherwise, we will suffer the way you have here, Please find the right professional top support you with psychotherapy to work on these tough issues.

That's why I said you need psychotherapeutic support to work on these tough issues.