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The 1st line of what you wrote to me was I broke up with my boyfriend a month ago...
Either way if you are pushing him for an answer or having other people reach out to him it could fully shut the door on things as he could feel pushed and overwhelmed. So I would act as if you are no longer together and just begin your healing and if he misses you or has other things more in order and wants to come back to the relationship he will reach out to you.
You are entitled to feel how you feel but it is not up to him to solve it. I would just move forward with things and see what happens what happens at some point in the future.
I didn't say it was bad, but we just don't want him to feel pushed by you or other family members that could cause him to fully close the door.
I understand. I would give him some time and space on his own and see if he has that time, that he wants to reconnect.
Sounds like he is a gentleman. Give him space and let things play out. That is the best option at this point. If you ask him for an answer now, most likely he will say it is permanent because he has indicated that he can't focus on the relationship now.
Because he doesn't have one possibly...so take a deep breath and give him time.
I don't think out of sight out of mind is a real thing. But I do know that if you keep contacting him and he wants to focus on other things, then he could just cut it all off for good.
It seems like you both reacted so let some air in and leave things be for a bit and because you are blocked that is the only way now anyway.
I have given you my best thoughts based on experience, but you seem intent on reaching out to him, and you know what works best for you then find a way to reach out and ask him to give you that answer. It is not what I suggest, but again, you need to do what works for you.
nothing or reaching out if you are too uncomfortable to give it time.
Then it sounds like he knows what he isn't able to give. So trust those words and pull back and see how it goes.
I understand all that you feel. Let's see how things play out.
So give him time and let things be. Time gives him what he needs to focus on himself and to possibly miss you and want to reach out.
I think he has indicated that he can't focus on the relationship now and can't give more. That is all we can know now.
It is my pleasure. Stay calm and hopeful.
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