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My employer has told me i am not allowed to talk to a

my employer has told me i am not allowed to talk to a collegue/friend who is on maternity leave about the change in contract that is happening with our fixed term roles. The project we are working on is changing significantly and as such the roles will be changing and we had been given the impression that new roles would have to be reapplied for. In a personal conversation with my friend we talked about what was happening and i mentioned that this was the current thinking. She then contacted HR to find out how this affected her and mentioned me and what i had said. My manager has now said i am not allowed to talk to her and all contact to be directed to them. I feel this is a form of censorship and don't think they have a right to say i am not allowed to talk to her. They haven't given any clarity about the situation and all the information i past on was from conversations with my manager and emails from the Programme manager. No mention of disciplinary but given the issues i have with my other manager (i work two roles for the same company) i feel this amounts to bullying and is unfair attack on me. Where do i stand, should i respond at all or just ignore it?

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I want to know if I would have a case of failure in duty of

I want to know if I would have a case of failure in duty of care regarding emotional/mental health. I was accused of spreading a rumor about a colleague 17 months ago. They have no evidence to prove any of it and I am now left with having to take medication to just step into work. I have spoken to my boss and HR but they have said they cannot move me anywhere else in the Group. Which means now I have to find another job because I cant stay there it is making me sick.Assistant: Have you discussed the accusation with a manager or HR? Or with a lawyer?Customer: It has gone through a review and they still have no proof that I ever said it. They are making me out to be guilty. The lawyer I spoke to said they can only to something about it if it is within three months of the incident. One of the accusers is a director and my counselor has said that I was traumatized at being verbally attacked by two people. I have never felt so isolated and alone in any job I have done.Assistant: What is your employment status? Are you an employee, freelancer, consultant or contractor? Do you belong to a union?Customer: I am an employee.Assistant: Anything else you want the lawyer to know before I connect you?Customer: It started with one of the girls telling the colleague involved that I was spreading a rumor about her while they were in a pub on a friday night.

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Assistant: How can I help? Assistant: How can I help? Almost

Hi there,Assistant: Hi. How can I help?Customer: Hi there,Assistant: Hi. How can I help?Customer: hi there. Almost 5 years ago I suffered with cancer. I was off work for 71/2 months. When I returned to work there had been a change in management. A former co worker had been taken on as a manager. From the start of my return, she wouldn't let me do my full job, belittled the way I was doing my job in front of other colleagues. Whilst making snide comments about me to them. I tried to speak to her about this but she burst into tears and verbally abused me in front of 3 other colleagues. Although our conversation had taken place out of the office. Her outburst was in the office. I escalated this to a higher manager and was called into a meeting on 24/12/13 with that manager and the one causing me problems. I came away from the meeting feeling that everything had been swept under the carpet. I continued with my shifts all over the Christmas period finishing my run of shifts at 7 am on 31/12/13. I came off a night shift and couldn't sleep through worry and anxiety which had happened most nights since I returned to my post in the September. As the day wore on I couldn't face having to return to work and put myself through the distress and humiliation anymore. I was home alone, nobody was expected home before 7pm. I couldn't face life anymore. She had destroyed me. I took a combination of extremely dangerous prescription drugs (which I am on for various other health problems) IE high blood pressure, water retention, cluster headaches. My husband came home 2 hours early, to find me almost unconsiouse on the sofa. He imediately called an ambulance. When they arrived my gsc was 3 and I had no gag reflex whatsoever. They told my husband that I was vercially dead and that I was most likely not going to survive this. I was introbated at home and rushed to our local hospital emergency department. Where it was confirmed how seriously ill I was. At which point my husband was advised to call family members to "say goodbye" my husband called both of our sons, my daughter in law was on the maternity ward following giving birth to our first grandchild three days earlier. He also called my parents, my sister my mother and father in law. My brother in law and my sister in law who was stuck in Scotland unable to get home. He also called my best friend and her daughter. Everyone rushed to hospital he hospital and once there they were ushered into a room on ITU where they were told to very quickly say what they needed to say to me. By this point I was on a temporary pacemaker tempoary dialysis and fitting constantly. I was in a coma for three days. They still don't know how I survived. They had called various different poison units around the country and was told the only thing they could do was to try to keep me alive until the drugs were out of my system. My family were told there could be irreparable physical and or mental damage. Sunsiquently I did survive. I had 3 months off work recovering and trying to sort out my mental health problems by way of treatment etc, I returned to work feeling very un supported, my husband was also treated very badly when he went to my works to inform them what had happened. He was told that they couldn't speak to him about me and that I would need to contact them myself.......I was in a coma not expected to live! I returned to the same treatment from the manager. I was ask d by a he manager who I had a meeting with on Christmas Eve and his manager to attend mediation.... So that it was on record and if anything ever happened again they would have that to use against her. I attended a meeting on my own. She then attended a meeting on her own and finally we had to attend a meeting together. I told her what had happened on December 31st. Sh burst into tears and then final said and I quote "well we're all responsible for our own actions". I'm not the only person to have suffered inexcusable treatment at the hands of this women. At least 3 other colleagues had raised complaints against her behaviour. I was then calleAssistant: Have you discussed this workplace safety issue with a manager or HR? Or with a lawyer?Customer: Yes on several occasions, but just made things worseAssistant: What is your employment status? Are you an employee, freelancer, consultant or contractor? Do you belong to a union?Customer: Employee. Yes a member of uniteAssistant: Anything else you want the lawyer to know before I connect you?Customer: That manager left but no she has been re employed to do my job on a casual basis and the company won't listen to the grave concerns that the union has presented them on behalf of myself and other colleagues

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This is a bit of a strange one. I am not sure what I can do

Hi, this is a bit of a strange one. I am not sure what I can do as my manager has not done anything specific that I can say that is definitely against the law but it is all very subtle things and has been happening for a very long time now and I am close to handing in my notice but honestly cannot afford to. I just would like to go over everything with someone and see what my options are please?Assistant: Have you discussed this with a manager or HR? Or with a lawyer?Customer: Not yetAssistant: What is your employment status? Are you an employee, freelancer, consultant or contractor? Do you belong to a union?Customer: Employee. I do not belong to a union.Assistant: Anything else you want the lawyer to know before I connect you?Customer: Not that I can think of

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I am a secretary in the NHS. When I returned from a 3 week

Hi, I am a secretary in the NHS. When I returned from a 3 week holiday in May, during which none of my typing had been done, I was told I could not do my own typing on my return but had to do another consultant's work as his was older. His secretaries (3) spend much of the day talking whereas my colleagues in the other office get down to work and keep up to date. I asked my line manager to address this which she did by moving me to a downstairs office for ‘health and safety reasons' and having had a panic attack on the first day I have been signed off with stress related problems for 10 weeks. Is this bullying/victimisation/harassment? ThanksAssistant: Have you discussed this workplace safety issue with a manager or HR? Or with a lawyer?Customer: Only at a sickness case hearing. The union rep was present and they feel I have a grievance. The manager withheld an email from HSE saying it was confidential. We have asked to see it but it has not been sent. Now doing subject access request. Our hospital union office has been closed so regional office inundated and difficult to get hold of anyone.Assistant: What is your employment status? Are you an employee, freelancer, consultant or contractor? Do you belong to a union?Customer: Employed by hospital, permanent 30 hours per week. For 8 years.Assistant: Anything else you want the lawyer to know before I connect you?Customer: I had Sciatica a few years ago and my then manager got me a sit/stand desk and chair. Trying to do my own work and others caused me to have tennis elbow...still seeing occupational therapist but no longer wear support. Can walk over moors,do Pilates, ride and swim and do upholstery. Probably covered under equality act as I have thyroid meds. My colleague who has rheumatoid arthritis was originally put on her own in the downstairs office on return after broken ankle but she complained and was moved out after a day. I believe the managers want me downstairs so they can bench out office and put two secretaries where I sit and are using my disability as an excuse.

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As a result of bullying at work by my line manager for a

Good morning, as a result of bullying at work by my line manager for a year I have been signed off for six weeks with stress. I have lodged an informal grievance and was told by my work that I obviously would not go back to work with my old boss when I return. After waiting for a call from a senior manager for four weeks I was encouraged to return to work but to report in to the line manager who bullied me for a year. Please can you advise me of any rights that I have?Assistant: Have you discussed this with a manager or HR? Or with a lawyer?Customer: Do you mean to return to work for the same line manager please?Assistant: What is your employment status? Are you an employee, freelancer, consultant or contractor? Do you belong to a union?Customer: I am an employee and no I do not belong to a union.Assistant: Anything else you want the lawyer to know before I connect you?Customer: No. Is this a free service please?

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From south Korea. I move to the UK in May and started to

Hi My name is ***** ***** south Korea.I move to the UK in May and started to work at Korean reselling company on mid of June.While I were working I realized that I needed to improve my English speaking skill and I gave them a notice of a month. But she asked me if I work there as a part time job or not for a month. I accepted her suggestion. ( I already applied for my English school)But after then she kept bullying and humiliating me as if I decided my work time. She looked down on me in front of my colleagues about my work time. She told them that I determined my work time without her permission also I cause their family jar ( Maybe she didn't remember she asked me to work more. But she shifted responsibility to her husband. -I had two bosses and they are couple)The first day I worked as a part time job, She was attacking and blaming me on my behavior ( only the reason I ruined the atmosphere- in fact I did nothing..) After then she gave notice of two weeks me. And she forced me to accept it!!!After then on 3rd Monday she kept blaming me in front of my colleagues. She seemed like she gave me the sack right now. ( I have a tape-recording)So I was not able to stay there and quit my job. I feel wronged ..I want to get my money back for a month and sue her for harassment and humiliation.How can I do ??Please reply it for meThanks for cooperation.

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I used a laptop at work, and used my personal email account

Good afternoon,I used a laptop at work, and used my personal email account to retrieve pictures for a report I needed to write.The company did not supply a camera, so I used my own phone to take photographs. I stored the pictures on Gmail. I then opened Gmail on the work laptop and retrieved the pictures.I closed the session down and closed internet explorer.24 hours later, another colleague assessed the computer and went to sign into his Gmail account. The web browser loaded my Gmail account automatically and created a login time on my Gmail security.This colleague then spent 9 hours on my Gmail account, found explicit pictures from 10 years pervious. He shared all the images around the work place, and left them all on display, screen saver on the laptop. He also defaced my profile, writing degrading and offensive comments and posting them onto the internet.The compnay insists that I am to blame, their internet and email policy states,Users are responsible for all actions relating to their email account/pc username and should therefore make every effort to ensure no other person has access to their account. When using compnay email, users must etc……..The policy relates to the company system, although does not refer to using personal email.The laptops are not secure, or encrypted. Allowing data to be saved at the end of each session.Users have access to change settings and allow the computer to save passwords and Cache.Employees are not given specific login, to ensure sessions are secure.Employees are also forced to use personal devices, due to lack of equipment.My company phone has no internet for example.Compnay email system was only introduced employees a few months prior to this.My primary contact for the compnay was my personal email.I want to find my employer vicariously liable, although they argue it's my own fault for not acting responsibly.

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End of April i was called into line managers office for a'

End of April i was called into line managers office for a ' chat' . She has been with organisation 4 months, where as I have been there 24 yrs. During this discussion she was very critical of my work, which I found unjustified and humiliating. At the end of the meeting I was presented with a document titled performance management review, which I signed under duress , as if not, was told that I wasn't agreeing to improve my performance. There had not been any previous indications given of underperforming by my current or many previous line managers during these 24 yrs. I subsequently found out that the organisation does not have a performance management/ capability policy/ procedure but uses its disciplinary policy if deemed to be still under performing over a 6 month period. Nether do we have an appraisal system and 1-1,s ceased when new line manager came into post. As a result I invoked a formal grievance procedure against my line manager. This grievance is being heard on Thursday of this week. Any advice would be appreciated. Many thanks SandraAssistant: Have you discussed the disciplinary action with a manager or HR? Or with a lawyer?Customer: HR say they are acting appropriately , even without a performance management policy . During a consultation with a solicitor at the time of invoking the grievance I was told that without a policy they are not adhering to ACAS good practice guidelines. ?Assistant: What confuses you?Customer: Are they able to Performance manage without a policy / procedure that has a coherent approach and objective measures to assess my performance ? They say they can?Assistant: What is your employment status? Are you an employee, freelancer, consultant or contractor? Do you belong to a union?Customer: I am an employee. No , I do not belong to a union.Assistant: Anything else you want the lawyer to know before I connect you?Customer: From previous conversations with my employers , they are not going to admit any wrong doing during initial hearing or appeal stage. Do you think I would be successful at tribunal ?

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