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I am a senior supervisor at this company. Since 2014 I have

Hi.I am a senior supervisor at this company.Since 2014 I have had a few issues with the office manager as when I report back to him about the work rate of other employees he does nothing about it apart from telling the employees that he has had a complaint about them but told me that the MD had told me to mind my own business.Since then until now it has made me feel undermined and worthless.I have done this job for over 20 years.I tried to talk to the MD about the issue and felt it would be resolved. Since then I have felt the office manager is playing mind games with me,,eg.he has had me doing the worse jobs available and to do them outside in the cold and between rain showers, he would tell other employees what been talked about on private issue between us and purposely parking his car to block me in from leaving at 4 as he finishes at 5. This is still going on to this day and he dismisses it if other employees done any wrong but makes a point to make sure the MD knows of any wrong I do even little petty things..I have previous put these concerns in writing but it seems to fade for a few weeks then starts again...lost now on what to do apart from making a record of events.

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I am currently off work with stress due to feeling bullied,

I am currently off work with stress due to feeling bullied, my boss is the chief executive and manager of HR , the organisation is a charityAssistant: Where are you located? It matters because laws vary by location.Customer: Warwickshire ukAssistant: Has anything been filed or reported?Customer: Only verbally to herAssistant: Anything else you want the solicitor to know before I connect you?Customer: I have worked there for 18 years and as a senior manager for the past 3years. I don't feel as if I have a job to go back to as she took on most of my duties when I raised this she said as my boss she could do whatever she liked. I felt like her lap dog and feel she stripped me of all my dignity and respect.

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I want to understand whether I have a case for constructive

I want to understand whether I have a case for constructive dismissalAssistant: Where are you located? It matters because laws vary by location.Customer: UK, southeastAssistant: Has anything been filed or reported?Customer: noAssistant: Anything else you want the solicitor to know before I connect you?Customer: no

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I'm currently in an extended probationary period (I did not

Hi I'm currently in an extended probationary period (I did not agree with the reasons in the first place) I'm experiencing difficulties. I have an excessive workload and I am being bullied. I was the only employee in my Area Office that was not allowed to attend a team building day. I'm about the complete a Bullying and Harrassment form to give to H.R. I'm in the Union too. What is the best way to handle this? I cannot work for them any longer because there is no-where to go. Will this affect my references from them? Thanks

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My manager has decided to initiate an 'informal' process due

Hello,My manager has decided to initiate an 'informal' process due to 'behavioural' issues. That came out of the blue, based on the 'evidence' in the form of feedback she has solicited from a few people (even though she claims that most of it is unsolicited). The list looks more like a list of accusations and one-sided opinions (e.g. Alex: 'not taking ownership/accountability', without specific examples, and some of them are false (which I can prove) and even contradictory. Some of these people have only interacted with me on a couple occasions and most have never said anything to me in my face, and went directly to my manager, or she has asked them, I am not sure.I feel that I have not been given an opportunity to defend my position, honestly, it feels like a lynch mob and has caused me a lot of stress this weekend.Based on these statements, which I refute, she proposed to remove me from the project and place on a 'Performance Focus Plan' for 6 weeks, which is humiliating given that it's been announced at the top level and across the company that I am leading this workstream (no problem with my performance, just my 'behaviours'). She instead wants me to hand over the project by the end of next week, and then do something completely different, which is made up and is not in her and, therefore, departmental objectives.I've been thinking about a lot what I should do. I decided that the relationship is broken down and I really don't want to be publicly humiliated like this (i.e. being removed from leading the work stream because some colleagues complained behind my back, mainly because I kept flagging a few issues and the way the project is being run) and do something completely different (given that I've only moved to this role in November and that was announced widely).I wanted to take a sick leave and just raise a grievance but on reflection I thought that I would talk to HR first, in the hope they will be willing to listen to my side of the story, which I doubt as they have advised my manager on this process in the first place, although I am not sure whether they have seen the 'evidence' list as it is poorly written and very unconstructive. I am also not sure whether HR are aware that she has decided to remove me from my core job and give me something that is not in her own objectives, so this is confusing, what is she trying to do (or the two of her lieutenants, who, I suspect, are the instigators of all this).Apologies for the long context, I would appreciate your help with the following:1. My manager asks me to 'sign the PFP and return to her for her to sign and retain'. Why is this signature necessary if the process is 'informal'? She said that a formal disciplinary process maybe started in 6 weeks if I don't achieve the objectives of the PFP (although this is not stated on the PFP form).2) Does she have the right to basically remove me from the project I am leading and, so basically remove me from my job. As I said, the list of things she wants me to do are beyond her department and are not even in her objectives so the senior leadership does not expect our department to use a full time expensive resource to do all these things.3) If I refuse to sign the document (which I intend to do), what are the consequences? Am I then entitled to just carry on what I am doing, i.e. leading the project?4) How can I have myself heard? I've been presented with a list of accusations, that she has solicited from a few selected people, and feel like have not been given a chance to defend my position. Is my only way to do this is to raise a formal grievance?5) There is a potential role in another business area and I said to my manager, why don't you just let me move there? I actually did not even want to do this project or move to her department (I'll ask about this separately). She said, 'if Will comes to me, I will have to tell him about the feedback about you and that I've initiated the process I doubt he will offer you a job then'. This sounds really malicious! Does she have the right to do this?I would appreciate the answers to my questions above and any further advice you might offer.I would be very grateful for a quick response.Many thanks,Julia

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Lately i have changed managers, and am consistently been

Lately i have changed managers, and am consistently been degraded, been left out of meetings and generally been put aside. This has lead me to start looking for employment elsewhere and i have noticed that on my contract, i have a 6 month written notice.This severely impacts my job hunt as i doubt any new company will wait 6 months for me, what can i do?Also i am constantly reminded that i am lucky to have a job, and continuously feel that they are waiting to give me the chop. Would this constitute as constructive dismissal?I have thought of discussing with HR, but am scared of repercussions.How does the law protect me? how can i safeguard myself?

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Ben, further to my query as discussed previously, I have had

Hi Ben, further to my query as discussed previously, I have had a response through ACAS that the company might be interested in a settlement and have asked me for a figure or a range for settlement if the issue.But I am not sure how to draw a figure for the mental stress this had caused me. And how it has been affecting me continuously. I feel like a different person now.Also, I want to make sure that this settlement becomes public in a way so that other companies and people become aware about the issues. So that no one else has to deal with thus humiliation and discrimination.I do have couple of thoughts about that:1)Is to ask a public apology in a newspaper or something even without mentioning the identities of both.2) Is to ask to organise a charity event for homeless people where I can possibly arrange as many Silh people as I can to work for free. They pay for the event and not the staff. In that way I can make a statement that sikhs can work in hospitality! I am not sure hiw practical this one is but I just want to make sure this issue becomes highlighted and people think about it.But at the same time I don't want to make it too complicated either!I will appreciate your advice on this.Regards,Raman

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I feel am bullied at work by my line manager. I am wondering

I feel am bullied at work by my line manager. I am wondering if I should report it through the process set by the company HR first or I should directly contact external professional for help?

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My employer has called me to disciplinary for a number of

HiMy employer has called me to disciplinary for a number of allegations I fought back and I have been suspended for 10 months.I have not been invited to another disciplinary yet instead have received a letter adding more allegations to the existing onesOne of which is regarding working elves where in my free timeCan I have an injunction taken out against this member of staff for following me and harassment?What do you call it when they cannot get you on something so they keep trying until they do get youThanks

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